Sorry James, but it seems to me like you're doing something wrong. I've been using the same earbuds since 2005. For the past couple months I haven't been using them regularly, but for the majority time they had regular daily use. I've had no problems with them, nor have I heard of any of my iPod-owning friends having problems with theirs. The quality on them seems fine to me. Either you got unlucky or you're putting more stress on them then you lead us to believe.
The Series is Over! Frayed Wires: 4, James: 0.